"Do You Love Me?"
This conversation happened 4 nights ago.
Me and her were lying in bed.
Faced each other with our eyes closed in a light, late-night embrace.
Thinking about the things people think about … at the end of another infrequent date (yep, we both have such grueling schedules).
And out of nowhere, came the question that I hadn’t quite thought about.
Although I had expected it for a few days.
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She: “Hey, let me ask you a silly question … (12 second pause) … Do You Ever Love Me?”
Me: Hahahaa (As my friends will attest, that benevolent all-knowing smile is my default response to everything)
She: Ummmmm … answer!
Me: (Awkward silence for about 25 seconds)
She: (Looks away. Possibly curses under her breath for bringing this up).
Me: I’m not sure what love means …
She: I mean, will you ever consider a LTR with me (that’s Long Term Relationship, numbnut).
Me: How do you define LTR?
She: I mean … a relationship for 2 years plus leh …
Me: (Slightly confused by this point, and thoroughly embarrassed for giving awkward answers. Wondering what the connection between “love” and LTR was …)
She: C’mon fella, I ain’t got all night. Stop turning red!
Me: Hey, did you go see that new James Bond movie? That Daniel Craig looks super-handsome! I mean, I don’t want to come across as gay … oh wait, you won’t think that, you’re already lying in bed with me. Anyway, about James Bond …
She: Grrrr!! … forget about it. All the girls who fall in love with you must be cursed with bad luck!
Me: I guess you don’t like James bond … let’s talk about “Happy Feet” … ?
She: (Sighs loudly, turns away and falls asleep with the shape of her lips curiously shaped like a big, loud “F”)
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Disclaimers, The exact language is highly inaccurate … the event happened 4 days ago … and I’ve introduced my personal brand of humor (really) and wit into this reproduction … but I have retained the basic meaning of our conversation.
And … I’m NOT voyeuristic fella to go out with. I can safely post this transcript bcoz this girl is one of the smartest chicks I’ve dated, and as she’s reading this, she’s laughing and chuckling :) …
And since she’s probably going to be around for a while, this is the first of many times we will be having this discussion
… So, I might as well talk about this to my conscience (also known as “readers of rachit.org”).
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But there was a good reason why I wanted to write about this … some very important questions about relationships in the society we live in …
- Why would a girl feel like bringing up these issues just a few weeks into the relationship? (In fact, I think my gal is fairly independent … most other fem friends I have would’ve brought it up by the second overnight date).
- Why did I feel guilty about saying “No, I don’t think it’s love yet …” or “No, There’s no way I can commit to an LTR …”?
- Are we socially trained to be comfortable with commitments … but biologically tuned to run away from commitments? Which is why every-time we have to speak the truth … we feel guilty?
- Are we (young ppl in Singapore) capable of western-style “casual dating”? Or will the line between “like”, “love” and “commit” always be blurred?
- Why do I always have to wrestle with my dilemmas in front of the whole blogosphere and am I incapable of figuring out these things in the privacy of my own head?
- Did you (the reader) actually take that last question seriously?
I mean, have I taught you nothing about sarcasm, wit and keeping a giant ego?
Laugh, chuckle … but do leave comments about your thoughts on young-people-relationships … because I really do want to know what you all think.
And I know you love reading my sensationalistic crap



dude,
it must’ve been really important for you to mull over it for ‘four days’ (4 freaking days!), to post about it now.
the first rule of fight club:
1) answer a question with a question -
“what does love mean to you?”
“how important is love?”
“how did you know that you are in love with me?”
or the classic:
“have you ever been in the situation where you know what you want to say, but you can’t make the words to say it? It’s a feeling.”
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man, i seriously think you fucked that up.
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try again later.
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good luck and good night.