Coaching’s Cool …
This week, finally took a few hours off work to go to POE coach training. As usual, it was Pete spinning webs, opening loops and making himself look like an idiot to all the new coaches.
As usual, those of us who understand how he works … were sitting back and chuckling at the perplexed faces of everyone else.
There were a LOT Of new faces there - more than I expected. Nevertheless, I did miss a few old faces … I’m hoping they will come back to coach … that time off will really help them too.
In fact there was one particular moment of epiphony I must mention. There was this pretty coach who has never coached before. And after two days she wouldn’t stop gushing “with compliments about me” … she called me “wise beyond my years” and “at peace with the world”. And she was eager to learn how I taught myself to behave like this …
Now, as big an ego as I have … I didn’t post the last two paragraphs here to show-off.
What’s interesting is that she was the only one in the room who felt strongly enough to come up and say it to me. There were 20 other people in the room. So, what’s the deal … how come none of the others got that impression?
It’s because she came to coaching with a hunger. None of us really come back to coach because we want to just help others.
We want to help ourselves.
There are areas of our life we’re not satisfied with. And that’s why we’re back here coaching. And I’m sure many people would deny this … but you know it’s true.
This one coach had the hunger to fix whatever had been bugging her for past few months. She was looking for answers.
And that’s why she found them. Found them in my behaviour. Found them in Pete’s. And found them in modelling our philosophies on life.
And that’s why I’m sure that many of the missing coaches will be back … as we get closer to PoE, they’ll realize that this is their last chance for self-discovery this year (probably no other PoE until next year). And we all want to find that missing piece of the puzzle that will bring us peace and calm. And as this time-urgency grows, they’ll forget about the long hours and effort required … they’ll remember the feeling of a family … and the satisfaction of feeling good, after they’ve helped others change for the better.
The “New” Rachit
And I noticed something different about me in that room. In the last PoE, I was a star coach … and even though I was fairly good at NLP coaching (I hope), there was some apprehension and fears in me. I also didn’t want to seem like I knew-it-all.
But this time, there was pretty much nothing holding me back. I sat in that room like I owned it and everyone else should call me “boss”.
And that had an interesting side-effect. I was really in touch with my “better” identities. I was a calming influence on people around me. I was the fun yang to Pete’s confusing ying.
I was subconsciously competent in ALL the NLP that had flown around me … I didn’t even need to identify and observe all the patterns & techniques Pete/Stuart were using. I was using them too! Without even making an effort.
A few months ago, I was a goal-focussed, learning-eager, constantly-self-judging entrepreneur. I used to worry about whether I would meet my annual financial goals, whether I would meet my dream girl, whether I would be sick next week, whether I was doing the best I can in everything I attempted …
I don’t know the exact time or date … but something happened to me. I started choosing to be happy every day. Now, I don’t care about any of the above.
I don’t care if I meet my financial goals. I’m just gonna carry on and enjoy building a fun organization.
I don’t care if I meet the “right” girl any more. I meet girls all the time! The right one will stick around longer than the rest.
I don’t care if I could be sick next week. My job is just to worry about the tasks at hand today.
Out of nowhere, this entrepreneur … found “faith” in himself.
This new identity of mine doesn’t live everywhere. I’m fairly reserved when I meet new people.
But when I go back to AKLTG, I feel at home …
… you’ll find this to be on the identity & spiritual level …
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“Pete spinning webs, opening loops and making himself look like an idiot to all the new coaches.”
lol
“So, Mr Dayal, this is Owen from gossip.com.sg, do you think that calling-you-wise-beyond-your-years girl had a crush on you? Is she out of her mind?”